Three Empty Nest Fears
Watching our kids step into a separate world can be very frightening. Because we love them so much and care about their well-being, it’s easy to imagine all the difficulties they might face and wonder if they’ll be able to cope. 
Often, layered beneath these genuine concerns for our children, lurk our own unexamined fears and twisted beliefs. You may recognize some of these:
- If my child chooses behavior I don’t approve of, it must mean I’ve failed as a parent.
- If my child is less than perfect, people in my church and family will look down on me.
- If my child doesn’t do as well as my friends’ children, I’ll look bad and be embarrassed.
In their insightful book, What Did I Do Wrong? Practical Help for Parents Who Think It’s Too Late, William and Candace Backus tackle common misbeliefs about parenting. They suggest you stop and question twisted thoughts that gnaw away at your peace. Ask yourself:
- Why am I fearful? Why do I feel guilty? Why do I feel responsible?
- What am I telling myself that makes me feel like this? Is it true or logical?
- How am I responsible for my grown child’s choices?
- If you’re fearful about the future, chew over these questions.
- Pray about them, taking your questions and fears to the Lord.
- Ask His help to not be anxious but instead, to be a wise woman who builds her relationship with her kids at every age. Prov.14:1.
Blessings, 
Poppy SmithInternational speaker, multi-published author, Bible teacher, and spiritual coachInspiring Women to Thrive! 
