FEARS WHEN OUR KIDS LEAVE HOME

Watching our kids step into a separate world can be very frightening. Because we love them so much and care about their well-being, it's easy to imagine all the difficulties they might face and wonder if they'll be able to cope.

Often, layered beneath these genuine concerns for our children, lurk our own unexamined fears and twisted beliefs. You may recognize some of these:

• If my child chooses behavior I don't approve of, it must mean I've failed as a parent.
• If my child is lkess than perfect, people in my church and family will look down on me.
• If my child doesn't do as well as my friends' children, I'll look bad and be embarrassed.

In their insightful book, What Did I Do Wrong? Practical Help for Parents Who Think It's Too Late, William and Candace Backus tackle common misbeliefs about parenting. They suggest you stop and question twisted thoughts that gnaw away at your peace. Ask yourself:

• Why am I fearful? Why do I feel guilty? Why do I feel responsible?
• What am I telling myself that makes me feel like this? Is it true or logical?
• How am I responsible for my grown child's choices?

These are good questions to chew over--and to pray about. Savvy Girls (Moms) Grow by taking their questions and fears to the Lord. Let Him speak the words you need to hear and check out where those fears are coming from!